If you don’t follow me on Instagram or Facebook you may have missed this but….
WE’RE EXPECTING BABY NUMBER 4!!!!
You can see our announcement video here.
If you’re a close friend of mine this wasn’t a surprise at all. But if you’re not, you may have had no idea that we really wanted another baby!
We’ve dreamt of a big family over the last few years. I can’t say I’ve always wanted a big family because that’d be a lie. I actually used to never want kids until about 5 years ago. And fast forward to a few years ago we started dreaming of a big family. Some would say we already had a big family. But to us? Our big looked like 4 kids. I’ve seen the sibling bond and brotherhood grow between our three boys and it gives my heart so much joy to know we are giving them another sibling. If there’s anything we will give them in this life it’s each other.
So I wanted to answer some questions we’ve gotten over the last few weeks since we started sharing our pregnancy and our announcement yesterday!
Yep, “what?!” has been the general consensus, but we have known for a long while that we wanted four babies and now our dream is coming true. And it makes us an even number again. 😉
Are you done having kids after this?
While no one has asked this I know it’s something most people wanna know! 😉
But yes, we are done after this! Four is my absolute max. The most exciting part is knowing we’re done. This is it! This is the last time we’ll ever have to go through a pregnancy, a labor and delivery and the hard part of the first year. But I already feel so much peace over this. I’m not sad AT ALL. Which is how I know this is it. I am done having babies!! When I was pregnant with Carter I went through such an array of emotions thinking, oh my gosh what if this is it? What if this is the last time I have a baby? Or go through pregnancy? Or nurse a sweet little face at night? All those feelings? They’re already gone! I am SO EXCITED to be done with pregnancies and nursing babies and that first year stuff. It’s somewhat bittersweet, but I’m mostly excited for this final piece of the puzzle and to move on to the next stage of life for our family.
And that’s how I know WE. ARE. DONE.
But what if it’s another boy?
Then we have the true honor and blessing of raising FOUR future gentlemen, husbands and fathers. The thought of that gives me goosebumps honestly. What a true honor it would be to raise four men. Just typing that out makes me tear up. It’s a tall order, but after having three already I’m confident adding a fourth won’t be too much different that what my life is currently (like cleaning the toilet seat off a million times a day…).
And if it’s another boy WE’RE STILL DONE (see: Tim getting a vasectomy post-delivery haha). This shop will be closed for business.
Do you want a girl or a 4th boy?
Of course I want a girl! I’m such girly girl at heart and would love nothing more than to have one of my own to dress in pretty outfits and bows. I’ve dreamt of having a daughter for so long and pray I get to experience that, but…
If it’s not a girl? I won’t be sad. Or disappointed. Or upset! I am so blessed that I am able to get pregnant and deliver beautiful children. While a girl would be great, a boy would equally as great. And I’ll retain my #boymomonly status haha. But in all seriousness, while the Lord knows the desires of my heart I also know that He knows best. So if He gives me another son it means He really trusts me in my abilities to raise these boys into God loving, respectable and caring men. And that’s nothing to take lightly. So I will take it as a sign directly from Him that this is what He wants. And I can live in peace knowing that.
Will you have enough space for four kids?
We have PLENTY of space.
Now, to some we don’t have plenty of space. Our house isn’t small, but it isn’t big either. It’s a modest 1600 square feet. But we choose to live pretty minimally and honestly the thought of cleaning an even bigger house right now makes me cringe. Sure, the boys will have to share a room, but there are worse things in life than sharing a bedroom. Our initial idea is that the babies (Carter and baby D4) will share a room for some time. Kaiden and Cameron shared a room for the first year of Cameron’s life, so it’s doable. And we were in a MUCH smaller space during that time. So it’s very doable. The three boys may end up sharing a room down the road since we already have a big bunkbed and K&C already sleep side by side on the bottom bunk that is a full size. So the top is still free to go to someone. It really just depends on the gender of baby D4!
We also still have lots of space in the basement that we can utilize down the road if need be. I mean we can’t even get our two oldest to NOT share a bed, so really it’s not even on my radar of worrying about room sharing at this point. Clearly they don’t mind!
FOUR KIDS UNDER 6 — ARE YOU CRAZY??!
Yep. A little bit. And to be realllllll honest, we weren’t expecting an arrival of a baby this year. We were really hoping and planning for a summer arrival NEXT YEAR. But again, God had a different plan (as is the course of my life so it seems…). Carter will be 22 months (definitely not in OUR plan… we wanted him to be closer to 2.5), Cameron will be just over 4 and Kaiden almost 5.5. So ideally we wanted to wait a little longer, but I got pregnant a lot faster than expected or what has transpired in the past, so it really was quite a surprise to us.
If I think about it for too long I get scared and nervous. Four kids 5 and under is very daunting. But if I can survive two under two for an entire year, nothing will ever be as hard as that was. Kaiden and Cameron have recently started growing much more mature (even through Cameron’s year of three otherwise known as the worst age ever) and by the end of the year I expect to see even more growth from them. All I know is God has trusted us this far with all of these babies, so I’m trusting He will continue to fill me up with all the things I need to be a good mother to four beautiful babies.
I just feel so very blessed and honored. I cannot believe (STILL!) that I am going to be the mother of four. This is a job unlike any other. I don’t take it lightly and put my entire heart and soul into it. It’s soooo hard. But it’s so very worth it.
I’m nervous about our new adventure and my last pregnancy, but I’m also grateful.