This post is sponsored by Evivo, but the content and opinions expressed here are my own.
Giving birth, no matter how that happens, is one of the most incredible things. The simple fact that we as women form, nourish and grow humans within our bodies and then deliver them into this world is and always has been so fascinating to me.
And even though it’s always fascinated me and even though I know that women all over the world for millions of years have done this… it can still be so intimidating, can’t it?
The months leading into giving birth to my son (my second child, but my first pregnancy, labor and delivery) I was terrified. As I’ve talked to more and more women about their L&D experiences this seems to be the general consensus: fear, anxiousness and concern. We know it’s painful. We know it’s hard. So it scares us. But here are some things I’ve learned about preparing for delivery to alleviate some of those anxious feelings and fear of the unknown.
You are a woman who is capable of amazing things.
You were born a woman and created FOR THIS MOMENT. Your body has spent years preparing for this and specifically the last several months. Your body is the most incredible thing and was made to do this. Will it hurt? Yes, it will. But the pain is so quickly forgotten. The moment you hear that sweet sound of your baby and see that sweet face all of the pain dissipates. It was worth it. The fear of the pain is what stops so many women in their tracks. Continue to remind yourself that you are capable. You are incredible. You are strong. You have grown a HUMAN in your body for nearly 10 months. YOU CAN DO THIS. You WILL do this.
After my first delivery I was amazed. I couldn’t believe I did that. It is such a feeling of pride and accomplishment in yourself. I grew a human being and brought him into this world. And regardless of how you deliver your baby — you are amazing and strong. The delivery method doesn’t matter. The simple fact that you brought a human being into this world is a testament to you as a woman that you should be so, so proud of.
The fear of the unknown is normal.
The fear of what could happen, what may happen and what could happen that you don’t even know about is normal. It’s okay to be unsure of delivering a baby for the first time (or even the second, third or fourth time!). However, as you start to inch closer work on taking that fear and putting it to good use to have a productive birthing process. Focus that energy in on what needs to happen to deliver your baby. It’s so easy to let fear get in the way of our bodies when we deliver, but directing that attention to your contractions, to listening to your doctor or midwife and most importantly to your baby who is working his or her way out — push that fear aside and hone in on your strong abilities.
Another fear that so many women have? Poop. They are terrified of pooping during delivery. But guess what ladies? The pooping that happens to a lot of mothers during childbirth actually serves a purpose other than pure embarrassment! It transfers an important gut bacteria strain that only lives in the colon and can only be passed from mom to baby during childbirth. B. Infantis helps baby develop strong gut health. Like I said above, our bodies were made to do this. Our bodies know what they’re doing!
This is where Evivo comes in. Evivo is activated B. Infantis that is crucial to a balanced gut. Without this babies are more susceptible to colic, eczema, and allergies among other things. It’s crazy to think about but 9 out of 10 babies in the United States don’t have this very important strain of bacteria!
Although as time has progressed we see less and less babies with this strain it is mainly due to life saving and and life changing medical breakthroughs. Evivo is definitely something I wish I had known about a few years ago when I was preparing for the delivery of my first son. I was so afraid of what was going to happen or what was not going to happen, but now I know the fear is normal there really is a reason to that super glamorous part of childbirth.
Your support team is important.
Your doctor. Your midwife. Your nurses. Your spouse. Your friend. Your mother. Whoever you decide to have by your side on that special day — have confidence in them, so they can have confidence in you. For my first delivery, it was just my husband, doctor and team of nurses. Second time around, I asked my best friend to be a part of the process and it was incredible. Not only did it bring us closer in our friendship (hello! She’s seen alllllll the things of my life now!), but both herself and my husband helped me during those hard contractions and pushed me through the delivery of our son.
I know it’s not always possible, but if you can, ensure the people surrounding you on that day are supportive of your birthing decisions, your process, your mindset and your capabilities. They will help you power through in the really hard moments to get to the sweet joy at the end.
Giving birth is by and far the most incredible thing I’ve ever done. I love it, I love talking with other women about their personal stories and what I’ve learned is that every birthing experience is different from baby to baby, from woman to woman. Everyone has a story, but no matter what these three things remain true to each of them.