July is one of my favorite months. Mostly because we get to celebrate Kaiden’s “Gotcha” Day. This is such a very special day to us as a family and will always, ALWAYS be celebrated. If you’ve never heard of “Gotcha” Day it is also known as adoption day. It is the day Kaiden’s adoption was finalized. July 14, 2015 we finally received the phone call we’d been so desperate to get telling us our adoption was finalized and Kaiden was officially and legally our son. For any adoptive parents, this is even better than celebrating a birthday because until that adoption day you are literally on pins and needles hoping and praying everything works out.
If you don’t know Kaiden’s adoption story you can read that here. But it’s safe to say we are grateful and so thankful for this sweet boy that we are privileged to call our own. He has such a unique story and we are blessed to be apart of it.
We choose to celebrate his adoption day because we want to continue to recognize how very special he is. Sometimes we run into hard things like explaining to a 3-year-old that he didn’t grow in momma’s belly like his brothers did, which is why we take this one day a year to recognize how he did become apart of our family. And while it may be different than his brothers, it is no less special.
I wanted to share a couple ideas of how we have celebrated “Gotcha” Day and how you can make it a special day for your son or daughter too!
Celebrating Gotcha Day
Involve the Whole Family
Adoption has so many dynamics involved and there’s no better way to make your child feel extra special than when their entire family is there to celebrate and rejoice that they are apart of it. For Kaiden’s 1st Gotcha Day we invited the entire gang: grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends and church family to celebrate Kaiden’s special day. We wanted him to know just how important that day was to us and how important it is to our entire village that is helping us raise him.
Make it a Party
Whether you get a cake, balloons, a gift or make them a special meal – make this day all about them! This is the day they joined your family. And to us, it’s even more important than their birthday because it’s the actual day they became officially yours! We like to celebrate with balloons and a dessert at the very minimum. Our kids go crazy over balloons, so they’re always a huge hit! But you can swap those out for confetti, bubbles, or any other party accessory to make your little person feel extra special!
Recognize Birth Parents
To be honest, this isn’t something that’s always easy for us to talk about. However, it’s still important and especially on Gotcha Day. Depending on your adoption situation it may not always be easy to talk about birth parents. Or on the flip side you may have no problem discussing birth parents with your children on a daily basis! Whatever your situation is it’s important to recognize birth parents on Gotcha Day. They are the reason your child is your child. While not every adopted child was placed out of love, I am positive that most birth parents have some sort of love for your child too, but may have not always been able to show that love consistently. This is easily the hardest part for us in our journey of adoption, but we will continue to make an effort toward communicating to our son about his birth parents and why he is so very special to have both birth parents and us. 🙂
Making your child’s adoption day special can help them to recognize their unique story and help them feel so special! I love celebrating Kaiden’s Gotcha Day and will continue to do so until he doesn’t want to anymore! He is a treasured member of our family and we are so, so blessed to be able to call him our first born.